Things Men Need to Learn About Sex

As much as I think that Buzzfeed lists can sometimes skip over the meat to get straight to the good stuff, they posted a list of things that men need to learn about sex from women that I thought was worth sharing. Granted, these asks do not apply to all penis having people, so don’t go crazy in the comments telling me how offensive I’m being please.

The Buzzfeed list is 19 suggestions long and I’m not just going to copy and paste all of that into my post because honestly, I think that Buzzfeed lists can be obnoxious sometimes. However, lists are an excellent way to trick readers into settling their eyeballs into a 2000 word article without blinking. Don’t hate the player, hate the game, my Peepz. There’s a reason why I don’t write for those guys.

I’m going to grab a Top 5 that are topical from my former life as a bisexual woman, but feel free to read through all the tips that Buzzfeed pulled from a very interesting Reddit thread about the topic. Let’s get down and dirty, shall we?

“Be receptive to change. So many guys get super offended if you try to tell them noncritically that what they’re doing isn’t working for you. They take it as a personal failing and double down on trying to make you like what they think you should like. Don’t be that guy.”

Agreed. Listen to what your partner is telling you when you’re involved in sexual activity. Possibly more importantly, communicate with your partner if you aren’t enjoying what they are doing to you. That’s how you can better your chances of having a positive sexual experience.

 “Cut your nails. I seriously had a guy finger-bang me once and I didn’t realize his nails were long, and my vagina started bleeding because it was CUT on the inside.”

Totally important. Don’t go at a vulva with jagged, unfiled or uncut claws. It’s ouchie and zero fun to get a scrape on sensitive bits.

“Have lube handy, and don’t judge women or take it personally if they can’t get very wet. Many women struggle to get super wet all the time, and others have vaginal dryness during certain parts of their cycle. Lube makes everything better.”

YES!!! NORMALIZE LUBE USAGE!!! I have a stockpile of lube in the sexy time box I keep next to my bed. There is something to be said for having options depending on my mood or the activity I’m involving myself in.

“The clit is your best friend. Most women can’t come from penis-in-vagina alone. Pay lots of attention to that pleasure center — lick, kiss, rub, and worship that thing.”

Without a doubt, yes. If you happen to find yourself in bed with a person who has a clitoris, love them down right by paying special attention to it. If they tell you that they want you to do something else, do that something else.

Lastly, I’d like to share this little nugget of wisdom with you:

“Don’t rely on bad porn to make you good at sex. Just like anything else, there’s a learning curve. I see so many things in porn that I would hate for some guy to try on me. Learn with your partner and learn to be responsive to each other.”

So many people (myself included) have thought that they could get all of their sexual education from a porno clip. It’s just not true. Communicate with the people you are fooling around with. Have conversations about what they are into and what you want out of the encounters. In the end, that’s what is going to make everyone super satisfied.

What sex advice to do have for your prior partners? Let me know in the comments below or slide into my DMs on twitter if you want to keep things private.

Source: Buzzfeed

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