The quarantine has all of us in our heads wondering when it will all be over. One of my friends decided to head to the dating apps for some companionship because his wife wasn’t “paying enough attention,” to him even while they were stuck in their house together for 3 months. He ended up finding a chill lady that he was into and stepped out on his wife claiming that he had to go to the office to pick up a few things.
Guess what Peepz?
He ended up getting sick with Corona, gave it to his wife and then he had to figure out some story to tell her about how the virus had gotten into their previously quarantined home.
I mean, COVID is shedding some light on some shady individuals, my Peepz.
In order to “save face,” my friend figured that he’d dig his heals in and come up with a, “must have been at the grocery store,” story. That made his already paranoid wife even more paranoid. She emptied out all of their cabinets, disinfected every single piece of canned/boxed food they had as best she could. The whole time my friend is staying in their guest bedroom getting sicker and sicker with the guilt of his lies creeping up on him.
He called me asking me for advice but he didn’t like what I said.
My opinion is that my friend should tell his wife what he did. His feelings of being ignored amidst the pandemic are totally valid. Where was the breakdown in their own relationship? How could they have communicated with each other to come to a compromise?
We all know how important I think open communication and honestly are in relationships. I can talk about that shit all day. Sometimes telling the truth hurts. You’ve got to think about the repercussions of your actions before you dive right in. It would be hella fucked up if you cheated on your partner, brought home an STD and then tried to play it off like you hadn’t done something out of the ordinary. Same shit with COVID.
Sometimes the hardest part of relationships is realizing that things need to change. That could mean ending it all together or it could mean tweaking the terms and compromising. Talking about what you’re going through and what your needs are is possibly even more important at this point than it was in 2019.
Listen, I get that consensual non-monogamy isn’t for everyone. Sometimes I think that it’s so tricky it may not even be for me. But if we take the “over” communication from that type of relationship and plant it directly into a monogamous one, I think we get something healthy. It can be so difficult to admit to your partner that you are not getting what you are looking for. Admitting what you’re feeling can be hard, but it can lead to personal evolution.
I choose evolving over stagnation any day of the week.
What do you Peepz think about my friend that caught COVID from his recent affair? Would you have given him the same advice or would you have said something different? Let me know in the comments below or slide into my DMs on twitter with your thoughts.
Image: Richelle Ryan in An Alarming Affair by Brazzers
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