Pornography can be a tough topic to discuss, in part because the conversation often becomes highly emotional for all involved.
Sometimes, the discussion quickly becomes an argument, as it started in the first place because a woman is emotionally hurt by her husband’s porn viewing, and believes it is negatively impacting their sex life.
Other times, it can be a lot more like a conflict over whether to watch Monday Night Football or the latest Lifetime made-for-TV movie (which will be about abusive spouses, extramarital affairs, or abusive spouses engaged in extramarital affairs). You know how that goes: She wants to watch a femdom face-sitting scene, but he’s in the mood for a girl-girl vignette featuring anal play. Pretty soon, everybody is shouting, nobody is turned on and the porn at the center of the controversy just sits there, unwatched and idle.
Whatever the nature of the disagreement, however, there are certain things you definitely should NOT do when discussing or arguing about porn with another person, whether that person is your spouse, your date, your dentist or your soon-to-be-ex-spouse’s divorce attorney.
As angry as you might get, for example, it’s never a good thing to belittle the concerns and opinions of your opponent. This is especially true when your opponent is also your spouse; things you say in anger today are going to be remembered – and subsequently used against you – forever. Trust me: the Palestinians and Israelis will come to a solid and lasting peace accord before you are forgiven for such a verbal trespass against your spouse.
You should also avoid ultimatums in porn arguments, as well as bargaining tactics launched from a position of strength.
In other words, ladies, no matter how tempted you might be to withhold sex from your partner until he accepts your position in the argument doing this won’t help – particularly if what you’re trying to do is get your man to stop watching porn. (Think about it: Is a guy with perpetual blue balls going to be less likely to watch porn on the sly when you’re not around?)
While some porn argument don’ts are specific to spouses and romantic partners, others are more universal.
For instance, no matter how angry you get at the person with whom you disagree about Internet porn, no matter how frustrating and aggravating you find their perspective to be, you should never hit that person on the head with your iPad.
For starters, an iPad is not a particularly effective weapon, especially if it’s one of those lightweight iPad Air devices. You could smack a person on the skull with an iPad Air all day, and all it’s going to accomplish is forcing you to interact with the “geniuses” down at the Apple Store to recover any data lost during your ineffectual attempted battery.
Second, unless it was a gift, your iPad wasn’t free; it should only be used as a bludgeon in circumstances in which the expense of replacement is worth it for the chance to do minor bodily damage to your adversary.
If I read about a fallen soldier’s mom thrashing one of those Westboro Baptist “God Hates Fags” imbeciles about the noggin with her iPad because they showed up at her son’s funeral, I wouldn’t criticize her choice one bit. Heck, I might even launch a Kickstarter to replace her tablet!
Third, nobody wants to wind up on the Internet in a picture like this one. Among other things, very few outfits match with horizontal lines and numbers on the wall behind you, and the artistry of county lockup personnel makes the folks down at your local DMV look like Ansel Adams.
An arrest for “battery by tablet” doesn’t look particularly good on the old job resume, either – unless of course you’re applying for a position with the Three Stooges, who might actually appreciate your ability to hit people on the head in comically ineffective fashion.
At any rate, you would do well to remember the above guidelines when arguing about Internet porn. They won’t necessarily help you win the argument, but they should keep things more copacetic in your personal relationships – or at least prevent your portrait from being a mugshot.
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