How much money do you drop to impress your partner on your first date? When I was single, I was much more likely to meet someone for a coffee (tea actually, but whatever) and a walk in the park than I was to drop mad cash in a fancy restaurant.
First dates set expectations for the duration of the relationship, I think. For our first meeting, my wife and I went to a used video game store so she could scope out Sega Genesis games and then we went next door for some sushi. Yes, sushi does sound fancy, but it was convenient and is actually our favorite food. We split the bill in half when it came time to pay up so neither of us got saddled with a huge check.
It was probably one of the nicer first dates I’ve gone on. That fact has nothing to do with why I married her, other than the fact that we vibed from jump and have never looked back.
Sum total spent on my first date with my wife was probably $50 because I am pretty sure I bought a Tshirt at the vintage gaming store. She bought a handful of Genesis games, so I’m guessing she spent about the same.
In the Bustle article linked below, they note that in the UK, the average spent per first date is about £100. With the market as it stands today, that’s about $106 USD and $156 CAD. That seems super high to me, yet if you look back at my first date story, that’s exactly how much we spent.
Dating gets really expensive. I always knew it, but maybe I never realized exactly how expensive it was. If you end up going on two dates a week, that can be a huge chunk that needs to be cut into your budget. I don’t think there’s any problem with splitting things up, but some people do. It’s probably better to have a conversation about who is going to take care of the checks before you are sitting down to eat or in line to participate in whatever activity. Talks like that can also make or break the experience, so tread lightly and choose your words carefully.
Back in the day I dated a few guys who straight up said to me, “If we go out to eat, I’m not paying for your food.”
Now, there are a million polite ways to ask the person you’re hanging out with to pay their own way, but that was not one of them. I also think that asking if one person covers dinner and one person covers the movie or whatever activity is a polite way to split things up. Even if both sides aren’t even, at least the full financial responsibility of the outing isn’t on one person.
Source: Bustle
Image: Jenny Diamond in Fast Times on a First Date by Brazzers
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