With life as per usual being as out of control as it is, my brain and my pussy are on separate paths. My masturbation time is less focused and my mind wanders frequently. Have you ever tried getting off to your very own to-do list? It’s infuriating.
When I’m with my girlfriend, I have to keep my eyes open in order to remain present in the moment. If I’m looking at her face and actually feeling the way that her body is coming into contact with mine, I’m good. But the second I close my lids, even if it’s because I’m about to roll into the ecstasy of an orgasm, I’ve got a million tasks in my brain waiting for me to begin.
Nothing is less sexy to me than realizing that I forgot to send a report over to my boss while I’m bent over and getting dicked down well.
I’ve been scouring the Internet for ways to become focused during sex, especially when I’m masturbating. Getting off seems like another one of the tasks that I’m ticking off, rather than a genuine self-love session like I used to experience. One of the things that I’ve discovered is Masturbation Meditation and I’ve been enjoying it for the the past week or so.
Having mindful sex will help you slow down, just like meditation does. When I’ve tried it, I’ve allowed the “outside thoughts” like what I’m going to be meal prepping for the week to come into my mind and then flow back out once I realize that I’m having them. Rather than “punishing,” myself for going side tracked, I take the thought, acknowledge it and then move on with my dirty fantasies. If the porn that I’m watching doesn’t contain what I’m in the mood for, I do some more searching, rather than just dealing with it.
I have also started setting a timer for myself. Because I cum so quickly (usually it only takes me about 5 minutes to reach my first orgasm) I give myself 20 whole minutes to experience my body. I start with an actual meditation, where I start at the bottoms of my feet and relax my body all the way up to the top of my head…and then I venture back down to my pussy to start exploring. Once the timer goes off, I grab my vibrator and I allow myself to actually orgasm.
I’ve really been enjoying these self-love dates with myself. They are helping me unwind from my hectic job and detach myself from the chaos of my personal life. There’s no doubt that 2020 has been a bat-shit crazy year, but I’m hoping that I’ll be able to continue making love to myself the way I am now, and keeping that focus going when I’m in bed with my lover.
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