Romantic Vs. Casual Sex

I had my tarot cards read a few weeks ago. She drew cards about heartbreak and new found passion. The woman said all the right things and pushed me in the right direction, but we disagreed about something fairly obvious.

“Are you giving yourself time to go through a slut phase?” she asked me.

“You mean all of my 20s and most of my 30s?”

“No…like, now. You’re going through a break up. Did you put your pussy back on the market or what?”

I definitely haven’t done that, but it’s because I don’t want to. Casual sex was how I got by for a large portion of my life. It was my complete identity and I loved every moment of that time. Now though? I’m way too busy with work and “adulting” to mess around with keeping track of multiple relationships. I’m so focused on myself and my own goals that having multiple partners for casual sex doesn’t make sense for me.

I’m a, “reformed-poly-turned-monogamous, yet still the biggest freak you’ll ever meet in the bedroom,” type of gal. I’m ok with that.

One of the things that I’m enjoying about my new relationship is the romance. It wasn’t something that I ever REALLY got to experience in my lifetime. I always said that I was going to save having a MMF threesome as my mid-life crisis fantasy. Now I’m realizing that it’s quite the opposite.

I want to be wined and dined with candle light…The fact that all that candle wax is going to end up on my tits by the time that things are through is proof enough to me that I’m still the same person I’ve always been, just different.

I totally think it’s very important to have a slutty streak where you experiment with your body and having multiple partners. There is zero shame in being polyamorous and loving as many people as you possibly can at one time. I don’t regret any of that life, I’m recognizing my own wants and desires at this point, rather than pushing them down and ignoring them.

Being young and having the ability to separate the physical act of sex from the emotional act of sex gave me so much. Now though? I’m ready for something different and similar all at the same time. I want the consistency of a really good partner who can fuck me to the edge of my own sanity while still holding my hand while we walk down the street. I’m looking for doors to be opened and a hand on my thigh while she’s driving us to a surprise date location.

It’s not all that different, it’s just with one person instead of many.

Source: Psy Post

Image: Kelly Madison in Driving Mrs. Madison Wild by Brazzers

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