As an insomniac, I don’t really fall asleep—I manipulate my body into depths of unconsciousness through routine, gear, and medication. I require a sleeping mask, ear plugs, and Ambien. Ideally, I’d go to bed sometime around or after midnight, and sleep as late as possible. Partner sleeping positions? Don’t touch me. A sleepy attempt at snuggling will shake me out precious and rarely obtained slumber.
By contrast, my partner falls asleep instantly, around 10:30 PM, and loves to cuddle. We’ve joked about obtaining him a secondary partner—not for sex, but for slumbering spooning. “The sex is great, but the sleep… leaves something to be desired,” he once told me.
According to the experts, we’re not alone. “I would say at least 35–40 percent of couples are not sleep compatible,” says sleep specialist Dr. Michael Breus, the author of The Power of When who developed a quiz for determining your chronotype, or sleep pattern. “Match.com should have a section where you answer questions about sleep; you should have a sleep compatibility score.”
This is the story of my life. I can’t sleep next to other people.
I’ll eventually get used to a specific person, but I usually can’t relax enough with someone else in the bed to sleep comfortably.
The row prompted last week by news that the Texan actress and former model Amber Heard is being sued for $10m for reneging on a supposed agreement to be filmed naked has put a compelling new twist on a familiar Hollywood puzzle: why is screen nudity such a big element of so many female stars’ early careers? It is a puzzle conventionally posed just after the one about why so many film directors are men.
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Writing in the New Yorker on Friday Brody suggested that it was “repugnant that Heard was put in the position of having to agree to nudity in advance”.
He called upon the Screen Actors Guild to “leap in and repudiate even the notion of a nudity rider. There are movies in which an actor’s nudity comes about as a result of the artistic process – even when it hasn’t been planned in advance, even in the absence of paperwork.”
Brody has faith in the possibility of creative integrity. But other commentators see a good case for setting up a contractual agreement that protects anyone from being persuaded to strip on set. It might sound a prim precaution in the bohemian world of entertainment, but in an industry where the casting couch is still a tacitly recognised route to the top, it may have its place. This issue is at the centre of a timely new American film, Always Shine, directed by Sophia Takal, about two young women trying to become film stars.
Damn, I can’t believe Heard is being sued for refusing to appear nude. That is fucked up.
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100 Women 2016: My sham marriage (BBC News)
In China, the pressure for young women to get married is huge. So what do you do if you are a gay woman? Ou Xiaobai, a 32-year-old living in Beijing, describes how a marriage of convenience helps her please her family and preserve her freedom.
I want to protect and be with my girlfriend for my entire life. And that’s why I married a man in 2012.
At that time I was living a happy life with my girlfriend in Beijing. But I was under constant pressure from my family – who lived in Dalian – to get married.
Ironically my situation would have been easier a decade ago. Then there was less awareness of homosexuality and therefore less suspicion.
Can’t we just all love each other?!
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